Children generally tell their first lie around the age of three. By ages four to six, they get really good at it. There are no exceptions. It is part of the human condition. We lie or at least we do until we bump up against the consequences or until we reach the age where we understand the consequences. Even that does not always stop us. We get more expert at it. We sometimes do it for ostensibly altruistic reasons (I did not want to hurt his feelings). Volumes have been written about why this is part of the human condition. Surely it has something to do with what Richard Rohr and others call our “lizard brain”—that primitive part of us that impulsively equates any perceived threat to our personal power/control, safety/security, affection/esteem as threats to our very survival. As Rohr points out, without encountering boundaries, limits, moral precepts, laws—those things that constrict or contain our primitive impulses—we are not prepared for the paradoxes and complexities of life which we will surely encounter, and we certainly are not able to experience the fruits of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control—in the midst of those paradoxes and complexities.
This week UCOG congregants Alice Cooper, Eugenia Koog, and Heidi Lagerstrom took a deep dive into these issues (discussed in Chapter Three of Falling Upward ) and will share their insights this Sunday. I was privileged to have a very rich conversation with this thoughtful group this morning and got a preview of what they will share about these critical matters in our journey to spiritual maturity. We will also officially welcome six new members to our congregation at our service this week. It will be a rich Sunday!
Please join us! With much love, Linda